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Public or Private Displays of Affection?

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

The day of love and romance means different things to different people.  To some it’s all flourish with big bouquets and huge heart-shaped boxes of chocolates.  To others, it’s a special note or hidden lingerie waiting to be revealed in private.  Which leads me to today’s question:

What’s more romantic, public or private displays of affection?

Nothing is more public than the surprise proposal during a big game or on a game show…or in the middle of a dinner party, but is that romantic.  I know I’m not the only one who cringes when I see one of those proposals – first I feel for the woman …talk about pressure!  (I’ll use the traditional couple for discussion sake – you know any combination of ask-er and ask-ee is possible.) But then I wonder if the guy knows whether she’ll say yes or not…getting denied on national television would be the ultimate rejection.  The end is almost always happy, but talk about stress!

On the other hand, a public proposal means the guy is putting all his cards on the table.  He’s saying “Look, I love this woman, and I want the whole world to know it.” He’s now accountable to EVERYONE, promising us as much as his wife that he’s hers.  Now that’s commitment.

The quiet, private proposal doesn’t have that kind of pressure attached to it…or does it? The surreptitious sliding of a velvet box across the table in a noisy restaurant or the spontaneous dropping to one knee has it’s own risks. The “you’re joking, right?” answer has a better chance of making an appearance…but so does the “Oh yes!” followed by more demonstrative affirmation. Is that more romantic?

So what do you think?  Is footsie under the table more romantic than a make-out session on the subway?  A song dedication on the radio or a special CD slipped into your bag? “Marry me” shouted in front of the cameras or whispered in a darkened room?

In any case, I wish you love and romance today!

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